The 10 Commandments of Dating and Travel

Hello my dear readers, can you believe February is already over? Time sure flies when you’re on the road having fun, right?

And well, now that the month of love is over, it’s time to reflect on one of the topics that is known for creating countless joy and sorrow: Dating a World Traveler. Have you ever done something as crazy as that? Worry not since I have something for you!

I present you the 10 Commandments of Dating and Travel, be sure to read them all, print them and hand them over to that special someone next time you’re ready to hit the road. Are you ready?

The 10 Commandments of Dating and Travel #01: It’s not about the future; it’s about the present.

Thinking about what might happen tomorrow will only distract you from fully enjoying what’s right in front of your eyes. Yes, saying goodbye will be hard but that’s why saying hello should be more important in life.

Don’t take the other person for granted and cherish the present more than the future.

The 10 Commandments of Dating and Travel #02: Don’t make promises you cannot keep.

In my previous life as a player in Mexico, I used to make fake promises about wanting to date someone for real when I was only after a one-week stand. Traveling changed me since now I’m just straightforward with what I want and what I can promise. And trust me, this world traveler always keeps his word.

Honesty is key and you will be only shooting yourself in the foot if you decided to lie to people you want to get involved with. Tell the truth all the time and you’ll get far.

Date a man who travels?

Date a man who travels?

The 10 Commandments of Dating and Travel #03: Non-exclusivity is best, put your couple to the test.

In my life as a world traveler, I have met all sorts of couples that travel with or without their other half and after interviewing (and yes, getting involved with) some of them, the general agreement was that jealousy is best put to rest with a non-exclusive relation. When love is strong, nothing else should matter (not even a handsome Latin Lover like me).

There are plenty of fish in the sea and well, every once in a while there’s nothing wrong with trying to catch them all. Like Pokemon!

The 10 Commandments of Dating and Travel #04: Long-distance only works when there’s an endgame.

Oh, long-distance, that dreadful word that is known to break men and women alike. If you ask me, it will only work when both know that there’s an endgame in sight. When there’s not, there will always be conflict since it will be hard to see a moment in time when both people are together in the same place.

If you’re dating a world traveler, don’t try to tie him/her down. It won’t work. And if you’re dating a non-traveler, don’t try to force him/her to travel with you. It’s just not happening.

International Love at Cambodia

International Love at Cambodia

The 10 Commandments of Dating and Travel #05: Get out of your comfort zone and date outside usual places. 

So hey, let’s assume you’re already on the road and you’re dating either a local or another world traveler. Where would you take them? Well, in my experience, locals love to explore the places they already love with world travelers since that way they can better connect and relate to each other.

If you’re both world travelers in a new city, then how about doing some touristy sightseeing together? Sure, you might not remember who is that blonde girl you were kissing at the Eiffel Tower but hey, there’s always a small chance that you will!

The 10 Commandments of Dating and Travel #06: It’s those little moments the ones you remember the most.

Speaking of which, in my experience as a world traveler, I have come to enjoy the little moments more than the grandiose ones. Sure, exploring the many wonders of the world on your own is a very wonderful experience but happiness is better when it’s shared.

Don’t try to make everything special, just realize that everything already is special and it is up to you to remember it as such. Plus, sunsets are beyond awesome!

A romantic sunset in Switzerland

A romantic sunset in Switzerland

The 10 Commandments of Dating and Travel #07: Diversify your dating pool outside of Tinder, Couchsurfing and Hostels. 

After almost one year of traveling in Europe as a single and handsome World Traveler, I have grown tired of meeting almost the same type of people in Tinder, Couchsurfing and Hostels. It became such a tired clichéd that I decided to become a celibate monk during all of January. Crazy, uh?

So how did the Man of Wonders get out of his funk? Believe it or not, Instagram (best dating app ever!) and the positive influence of his incredible friends who encouraged him to get out of his comfort zone and diversify his dating choices (and seriously, how come I ended up talking about me in the third person?).

The 10 Commandments of Dating and Travel #08: Don’t judge a non-traveler; try to understand them.

As much as I wouldn’t like this to be true, the fact remains that not everyone is able to afford traveling the world like I do. And besides, not everyone wants to actually travel as much as I do. When I was younger, I saw it as a lack of love and I was hurt because of that. Now that I’m older and wiser, I have come to accept that all life choices should to be respected no matter what.

Don’t get hurt because the person you’ve been dating for a while doesn’t wants to travel with you, just go by yourself and enjoy the freedom that travel will give you (plus, you’re already following Commandment #03, right?).

The lamps of Istanbul Grand Bazaar

The lamps of Istanbul Grand Bazaar

The 10 Commandments of Dating and Travel #09: Don’t fall in love. Seriously, don’t.

Love is such a strong emotion that is very hard to define. The last time I felt it was almost one year ago and ever since I have built up an Armor of Wonders (patent pending) in order to protect me from feeling it and getting hurt again. Falling in love with a world traveler is hard. Falling in love as a world traveler? That’s harder.

So in the end, this is probably the most important commandment of them all: Don’t fall in love during your travels if the other person is not willing to be a partner in your adventures. Otherwise, what’s the point??

The 10 Commandments of Dating and Travel #10: Don’t be sad once it’s over, be happy that it happened.

Let me ask you a question: Imagine for a second that somehow you got informed that the main characters of your favorite Disney movie divorced and never spoke again to each other after the credits rolled. Would you feel sad because their love story is over? Or would you feel happy because said love story happened in the first place? 

Life is a movie with as many sequels as you want them to exist. Some will have endings of sorrow and some will have endings of happiness but the bad times will never be able to negate the good ones. Never. Nothing last forever and it is wise to understand that everything ends in one-way or the other.

So what’s the best you can do when it comes to dating and travel?  You can just enjoy life. Be yourself. Travel. Love. And keep moving forward.

Awesomesauce, uh?

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The Man of Wonders at Harder Kulm, Interlaken

Have you ever dated a world traveler? What were some of your own commandments? Share your thoughts and let me know what you think! Also, don’t forget to check out our previous articles about love, dating and traveling:

10 reasons why you should date a Mexican Man.

Date a man who travels, uh? Wait what?

What traveling for love taught me about life.

How to use Tinder to meet locals during your travels.

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38 Responses

  1. Donny

    Cool article, very honest! Luckily, my wife and I see eye to eye on travel.

  2. Marie-Carmen

    Tinder, CS and all are useless in Europe. There’s nothing better than bars and best of the best outside Ireland: Irish pubs! You meet people, get some drinks… and you know the rest! Well at least that use to be my technique.

    And I’d say for 9 that I do hope you’ll let the armor down when time comes. I kept mine up for a while but it got shattered to pieces when I met my other half while travelling (and poor him, I did try to scare him off!) and now we’re exploring Asia together.

  3. JC from Holland

    Here I thought I’m going to type: I’m way beyond all the dating stuff (considering my age) and than I hestitated, never say never, right? Maybe I will use some of your tips in a blog about older women traveling and meeting other vagabonds ;-) on the road.

    I love your blog and writing skills.

  4. Dave Briggs

    Leaving the main point of your articles aside – I think the sad thing about couchsurfing is in fact its the biggest unofficial dating site in the world. It was so much better in the earlier days.

    • Raphael Alexander Zoren

      I would like to say that some people still use it for meeting fellow travellers (I LOVE staying with all types of travellers to be honest, male, female or couples) but you cannot deny the human nature of mutual attraction and when two consenting adults that are attracted to each other share the same bed…well, magic just happens.

  5. Travelwith2ofus

    Lol. You are so funny dude. No, seriously, you are! But this was an interesting story. A lot of first hand experiences make it worthy of a read. BTW, if love smacks you in the face you can’t stop it. Be warned, love is everywhere.

    • Raphael Alexander Zoren

      I guess I’ll end up marrying another world traveller but there’s no rush, I mean, if George Clooney waited until he was 60, why should the Man of Wonders not do the same?

  6. yara Coelho

    Long solid relationships are totally POSSIBLE! I’ve been a traveler for 16 years and in a very serious, committed monogamous relationship!

    Girls, get a Polish boyfriend and forget the Mexicans!hahaha

  7. Ashliegh

    This post is so great and so true! I think we learn so much from relationships with other people, even if those relationships don’t work out!

  8. Herumtreiberin

    I’m very lucky to have found a non-traveller who doesn’t hold me back. He knew from the start that I travel the world regularly and he doesn’t mind, he even supports me in pursuing my travel and blogging plans. :)

  9. Caroline Achieng Otieno

    Wow! Funny post..I think I’m too conservative to dive into the world of dating while traveling..I believe that love should not be given a mediocre place such as being thrown into a heap of ‘one night-stands’..that’s just way too scary for me, though whilst traveling I’ve met some crazy guys with their indecent proposals, and have promptly fled the scene..thankfully when I’ve been at Airbnb’s and hostels, nothing crazy has happened because I made sure if we were going out it was in a group and so forth..

    • Raphael Alexander Zoren

      The Man of Wonders doesn’t do One-Night-Stands, he requires one week at least haha, there’s a reason why they call me the inventor of the One-Week-Stands! TMI!

  10. Jasmine

    I love traveling with my husband. It’s one of our bonding moments and make us renew ourselves from the monotony of day to day life. It’s great to have new bonding moments and see new places.

  11. Richelle

    “Long distance only works when there’s an endgame”- boy do I know that one all too well.

    Still looking for the lucky man to come on my adventures with me. For now, it’s loneliness and random awkward hookups with the WAY too tiny expat pool in my city.

    • Raphael Alexander Zoren

      Hahaha “random awkward hookups” love it! I’ll give you a call next time I’m in Asia, I heard that sometimes a selfie might lead to something more awesome once you mix Tequila into the equation haha ;)

  12. Liezl

    Interesting article. I can’t help but grin while reading. Love and travel is a great combination. I guess I am fortunate for my boyfriend also love to travel. We have already visited Macau and Singapore. We have lots of places on our list. Mabe we will just bump to each other on our next trip to Europe. :)

  13. DanielClaton

    Very interesting, thank you. Actually, I am not a world-traveller myself, only travelled for 3 months on a row longest. I dated 2-3 girls on that trip (always beig the gentleman I was, so no messing around and kissing the limit) and there in a hostel I met the girl I am going to marry this summer. We have been having a long distance relationship for about 2 years now, she lives in China, I live in Germany. She is not a real “traveler”, but one of the few Chinese girls from the countryside daring to leave her comfort zone. So just stay nice with the girls and if you fall in love- why not? Of course you can always get hurt, but I think in the long run only having casual relationships/dates will render you lonely and hurt your soul more then you might think.

  14. Amna Ijaz

    Come to Pakistan, Zoren! If not all of it, at least Northern Pakistan. We’d love to greet you here. This is irrelevant to the post, I know. :D

  15. karla

    I have been searching on the internet about love and traveling and long distance relationships… trying to understand a world traveler. Unfortunately I have fallen in love with a charming, sweet, adorable and exciting guy. It has been one of the most exciting experiences in my life and one of the worst at the same time. I feel hurt, can’t deny it. I thought I was special for him but I started to think that he was just enjoying a new adventure and probably enjoy it the same way while traveling or anywhere he goes. It’s not fair!
    He is acting distant and I feel is avoiding any kind of attachment or commitment. It hurts because I know he dates and has sex while abroad and is always looking for something new to do. At first I thought he was the most brilliant and extraordinary person I have ever met, now I think he is selfish, a player, someone who doesn’t know what he wants and need to experience something new and shallow to fulfill his emptiness. The best things in life takes time and effort. Even though I admire and respect his choices because at the end that’s what he wants and chose to do, You can all hate me but life is all about balance. Whatever you chose to do (because that’s what makes you feel good), do it, but make a balance. At this point you might be thinking that I don’t understand or that I shouldn’t be calling him selfish but let me tell you something, the problem with dreamers and real world travelers is that they use people to satisfy themselves and then move on and find something else or someone else and do the same. Oh god, they are the most charming people you would ever met but they can leave the deepest scars you would ever have in your heart. Before dating a REAL world traveler understand that:
    They fall in love very often but move on quickly
    They give almost every person they meet a wonderful experience
    They don’t attach easily
    They prefer and enjoy something new and short instead of long term relationships even if they fall in love.
    They always need something else that they can only find taking a bag-pack, a map and a flight ticket
    They usually call all his hookups “friends”
    They only live in the now, planning a future with them is not possible. They are always planning for the next trip.

    • Ramblin Rose

      Please don’t take me the wrong way, but from an outside perspective, it seems that the two of you just didn’t mesh with the lifestyles that you both have. Was giving you an amazing time something that you now regret and do you not also want to give everyone you come in contact with an unforgettable experience as well? My deepest scars have come from sacrificing my own crazy adventures in order to stay put with someone who tried to dampen my shine by being judgemental about my idealism, positivity, and wildness…but everyone is different. I’m sincerely sorry that you have been hurt, but I hope that you will see that this person more than likely did not intend to leave you broken. Some people just don’t have a sense of home the way that you likely do, but that doesn’t make them empty or shallow. Reading this struck a chord with me because I hope that those I’ve touched over the years don’t feel this pain over me and the fact that I don’t wanna be chained to one place or one person. I care about people so deeply, but I feel like a person who has equal love for me will be into who I am and appreciate my lust for life. Wishing you the peace and happiness lady

  16. Ramblin Rose

    I know this is an old article, but I just wanted to say that I find it ultra bizarre that anyone could become angry and jealous over the person they “love” traveling the world and having an amazing time. I recently fell for a world traveler and hang gliding extraordinaire…we spent an amazing weekend together before he was scheduled to go to NZ for the summer season there to live in this gorgeous lodge and give lessons. Maybe it’s just my independent and carefree personality, but I would never dream of asking him to give up the spontaneity of his adventures, whether it leads him to connecting with other women or not, because that is precisely why I am so enamored with him. His gypsy spirit and tales of magical times gone by are why I’m drawn to him…if he gives that up, he wouldn’t be the person that I care for. Funny how he apologized to me for not being able to commit to me physically while he’s away because I think the notion of that is totally silly! I’m not trying to stifle my self exploration here at home while he’s half way around the world either! Apparently he had been through that before. The fact of the matter is that there are billions of people in this world and we are only given one chance (that we know of for sure) to experience them and the places they explore. Trying to hold someone back from fully being immersed in their adventures is not truly loving them, because if you’re going to really love a world traveler you’re going to have to understand that they choose this lifestyle in order to genuinely experience all that life has to offer them! That includes intimacy with other people. Reading this reinforced that my NZ gypsy and I are indeed compatible! I’ve never enjoyed being stationary and also work in the outdoor industry so I outfit people for the trips of my dreams without taking that leap myself. Yes, I’ve traveled, but my wanderlust is stronger than what I’ve been able to satisfy thus far. I have been overwhelmed with boredom for years now but felt stuck due to obligations that I now realize are all contrived. It’s been so amazing to meet someone who can give me that extra push to go out and just do what I want without making excuses about responsibilities that will still be here when I return. So, looks like I’m gonna buy a ticket to NZ and set my sails to adventure finally. Been dreaming for too long, time to make the magic happen!

  17. Pera

    I am currently in a so-we-call-relationship with a world traveller. I do understand in the first place that we will not going to meet regularly and the chance is rare to have a physical date. I also travel a lot, but not a non-stop one. I mostly travel for work, every month for one-two weeks overseas.

    So we met, I did not plan to fall in love. I thought it will be only for a short term (one-week in your term). But now, see, we have been in this non-traditional relationship for 4 months. After the first meeting, we meet again in the city he visited. Then again, in the city I visited. Then, he visited my country and stay here for a month. Everything goes deeper.

    I know the last thing you can do when you date a traveller is being attached. But this is inevitable. I fall in love with this guy and this kind of attachment comes with a pack called jealousy. I am not jealous with his travel plans. I even encourage him not to stop or stay with me. He has to go. Because I know how does it feel too. What makes me irritated is the fact that travellers are spreading love everywhere and the potential hookups are in every corner. Especially if Tinder and other dating apps in involved and active all the time. I understand that we all want a new experience. But imagining him sharing intimacy with some other girls..that hurts.

    Now I am trying to let go. I know this risk of jealousy is inevitable and no point to put a limit for his freedom. I met him in the first place as a traveller. So that he will be, I will never ask him stay.

    Letting go is the best option I can do now. It doesnt mean a break-up. But totally giving him the freedom, and to free myself too. I think NSA is the preferable option rather than an exclussive one. Maybe?

  18. Elizabeth Ziser

    Great article! Solid points, and very honestly written. The only one I disagree with is “No. 9: Don’t Fall In Love” for the risk of falling in love is equally as dangerous as the risk of avoiding it.

    Now… *responsibly* falling in love is another story. ;)